As Amber Barrett reflects on the journey so far, the Milford woman’s mind is littered with instances of FOMO.
At just 22, Barrett has packed quite a lot into a career that still remains in its infancy.
That she has done so much is down as much to those bouts of a Fear Of Missing Out.
On Sunday, as Barrett walks out to to the carpet of the Aviva Stadium to play in the WFAI Cup final for Peamount United, it will be worth remembering that her journey could’ve had so many more destinations.
At the crossroads, the indicator in her mind flashed in 2017 and turned her towards soccer.
She’d played in the 2017 League with the Donegal senior footballers and had scored 2-9 in the All-Ireland U21 ‘B’ final win over Longford in 2015, but by the time the 2017 Championship came around, Barrett had decided that soccer was her calling.
The latter half of 2017 – winning the Player of the Year gong with Peamount; finishing as top scorer in the Women’s National League; making her Ireland senior debut; and being joint captain of Ireland fir the World University Games – told her that her call was right.
It all came after Donegal had won the Ulster Championship and Barrett still feels the pulls on her heart strings.
“That spark is still there now,” she says, ahead of Sunday’s televised final with Peamount against Wexford Youths.
“They’ve won two Ulster titles and unfortunately I don’t have those medals.But I’ve made an impact on the Irish women’s team and I’m so thankful for that.
“It was hard to walk away from a team that had ambitions of winning an All-Ireland. It was hard to say ‘no’, but I had to make the decision, difficult and all as it was. Part of me still misses the Gaelic, but I don’t regret moving or choosing.
“There was this whole thing where I basically had FOMO. I was scared of leaving one and that one I let doing well. When I went to Peamount, the Donegal ladies were pushing and looking to win Ulster titles.”
You wonder if she were to stand in a time machine now and rewind six years where she’d wander.
The young Barrett stuck being a dual star as long as she could – and perhaps longer even than that. A bout of glandular fever that had her sidelined for six weeks in 2017 was ultimately a nod to make a decision.
Take her back into her mid-teens and she muses that she may well have chosen a different track altogether.
“Part of me wishes that I’d stuck to athletics,” she says.
Eamon Giles, her coach at Cranford AC, encouraged her to ‘give it a go’. Giles’ pushed, Barrett says, ’till he was blue in the face’ as his pupil competed at a high level – the top level in her grades, in fact – in sprints and the long jump.
She says: “I loved the athletics. I probably miss it the most. I was very passionate about it and was good at it; I won underage All-Irelands.
“I just fell away from it then and was caught between football and Gaelic then. There’s no point wondering what if or what might have been.
“I’d done so much at underage level. Patsy McGonagle told me once that I needed to make a decision by the time I was 16. He was right, but I didn’t listen. I’d tell youngsters now to make a decision early and not carry it all the way I did.
“You’re never going to turn around and tell someone to choose at 12 years of age, but by 16 you probably do need to focus 100 per cent on one. I got caught between doing one, doing the other and doing something else. It’s not physically feasible to do that.”
Wheels in many ways have come full circle.
As Barrett was lining out this year for the Republic of Ireland in 2019 World Cup qualifiers, Letterkenny woman Ciara Grant, who has 25 senior caps to her name, was part of the Donegal senior football squad.
Ciara Grant in action for Ireland
“I remember when I was growing up, Ciara Grant was going to the World Cup with the Under-17s and I always looked up to her,” Barrett says.
“Ciara always stood out. She always seemed to be doing well. Ciara was up at underage and then went to seniors. She sort of set the tone and was a role model for us.”
Last September, Barrett made her Irish senior debut as a substitute in the 2-0 away win over Northern Ireland – on the same night that St Johnston’s Tyler Toland created history in becoming Ireland’s youngest senior international. Roma McLaughlin was already a part of the squad and they’ve since been joined in the senior ranks by Amy Boyle-Carr.
Amber Barrett, Roma McLaughlin and Tyler Toland
Like Grant before them, that quartet is now lighting a fuse in the budding footballers in the Donegal and Inishowen Women’s Leagues.
“I can see now that little girls are aspiring to be in the position that I’m in,” Barrett says.
“We’re all lucky to be in the positions that we’re in. We’ve worked very hard to get here, but we know we’re showing that it’s possible.
“The girls coming out of Donegal now are as good as are anywhere. I’m as proud a Donegal woman as you’ll ever meet. There’s something in the air up in Donegal that people around here in Dublin would love to have.
“The Leagues are stronger now. When I was playing for Lagan, we dominated for a few years and were beating teams eight or nine-nil. It seems to be more competitive now and there are more teams playing.
Amber Barrett with the Lagan Harps side who won the WFAI Junior Cup in 2014
“I played on teams with the boys and that was great for developing. It helped me a lot to be competing with the boys teams in Milford.”
In April, Barrett’s image beamed from the back pages and became an internet sensation for a while after scoring a dramatic late winner for Ireland in the World Cup qualifier against Slovakia at Tallaght.
Her thinking is selfless and she doesn’t list that moment at the top of her list.
“Obviously it was a huge thing to score for my country…but in a broader aspect, the draw against the Netherlands was a bigger highlight,” she says, in reference to the 0-0 draw with the reigning European champions in Nijmegen.